Statistically ladies are less likely to visit a swingers club alone than gents. But it's not just swingers clubs, it's bars and pubs too. 

The hospitality trade has done research into this. One of the reasons is long standing social stigma, in the 70s and 80s it could be frowned upon if a lady went into a pub alone, some pubs wouldn't serve single ladies, others would only serve single measures or half pints. A percieved lack of safety is another reason or not wanting to be pestered by men.

Yet numerous blogs and magazine articles by ladies are embracing their experiences at swingers clubs, pointing to the safe environment and the fact that ladies have a sense of empowerment. In a regular bar, ladies who choose to be sexually adventurous or like a flirt are often labelled, yet in a swingers club, you can flirt and tease to your hearts content (or not, the choice is yours), you are in charge.

Spend your money on looking great and feeling confident and ensuring you get to and from the club safely. We understand that ladies are more likely to have additional costs like childcare. We don't want entry fees to be a barrier to you visiting us.

Do I have to do anything sexual?

Absolutely not, a swingers club is somewhere you can be as sexually adventurous as you like, not somewhere you must. 

Many customers visit only socially, most will only play if they are attracted to somebody. You are NEVER expected to do anything.

What if I don't want to do anything sexual?

You have the right to give or withdraw consent as you wish. A simple polite 'no' should surfice. If it doesn't and you are pestered in any way speak to staff.

Can I do anything sexual?

Yes, you can (within reason), Provided that it's consensual with those involved. Sex is never guaranteed and all customers (men too!) can give or withdraw consent. No always means no!

Do I have to get naked?

Absolutely not. You never have to get naked. Should you choose to go to play or watch in our playrooms, dungeon or use the sauna/jacuzzi we ask you to dress down. (It would be wierd to be fully clothed in these circumstances!).

Dress down doesn't mean you need to be naked, it can be lingerie, body suit, swimwear, towel, you may also want to wear a robe or a throw.

Will I see sex/nudity?

Possibly, if this offends then DECADANCE may not be for you. You are never under any expectation to partake.

Why should I come to DECADANCE over a bar in town if I just want a social experience?

Firstly we are selective on who we let in, you won't get stag dos those under the influence of drugs. A no phones policy means you get like minded adult conversation, customers who enjoy having a laugh. We have karaoke, a dancefloor and free pool.

Can ladies come as a group to DECADANCE?

Yes of course. Its a great safe, day or night out. Ladies are under no obligation to swing or play. We have a dancefloor, karaoke and free pool. You may be a group where some are looking to play, some are not, that's fine. You may want to use the sauna/jacuzzi. If there are any men in your group, couples/gents entry fees would apply.*jacuzzi on special events only.

If you drink a lot of the same drink eg. all drink prosecco, we'd appreciate it if you'd give us a few days to endure we've got plenty chilled. Do this via the contact us page rather than the form on this page.

Is DECADANCE safe?

See the section below for ways we look after your safety. We ask you to look after yourself too.

  • Never leave drinks unattended
  • Don't drink too much.
  • Don't do anything you don't want to do.

Why can meeting someone at a swingers club be safer than a bar?

If you meet someone in a bar and want to take things further you have a few choices? Go back to there's? Take them to yours? Book a hotel? or maybe a quickee in the toilets.

Taking a stranger to yours, going to theirs, or a hotel can be extremely risky. Do you know this person? DECADANCE provides a safe no judgemental venue where staff are on hand to help.

What do I pay for?

Drinks! Ladies don't get charged for entry. Any drinks can be purchased from the bar. Bar prices are listed on our website and are similar to a normal bar/pub.

There is no charge for towels, lockers, condoms or playing pool.

Can we arrange a private party or hen-do at the club?

Yes, we can usually sort something. Use the 'contact us' page and we can discuss your requirements.

Can I bring my mum?

If you want, just don't complain if she has a better time than you!

Clubs have numerous safeguards to look after ladies and make sure they have a great experience. DECADANCE is female owned and run. Here are some of the ways we look after ladies.

  • We are selective about who we let in. Those who are drunk will not be admitted. We will not usually allow all male groups into the club.
  • When anyone new comes to the the club they will be shown around the club, part of this will include explaining the standards of behaviour expected including that no means no and ensuring this is understood.
  • We have a no mobile phones policy.
  • Being a small club, its's easy for our staff keep a close eye on what us happening. Staff will step in and stop trouble before it happens.
  • Unwanted advances, pestering or following other customers around are not acceptable, staff have no issues with warning or asking people to leave. If you have any concerns, our staff will happily address them. We encourage you to report anything no matter how small immediately. We can talk privately. We will deal with the issue. We have a number of regular customers who have no problems in reporting problems, if you don't feel confident in doing it yourself. (Problems are very rare but we want you to report everything).
  • Condoms are free and safe play encouraged.
  • We will happilly call you a taxi when you are ready to leave. We will also walk you out to the taxi to ensure you are safe.

If this page has convinced you to pay us a visit then we hope to see you very soon. You don't need membership, you don't need to give us any personal details. Just come along when we are open, it's natural to be nervous. Remember you never need to do anything, we have no judgements you can visit purely socially and it's always free entry.

If this page hasn't convinced you to visit, we'd love to know why? Is there something you are concerned about or want clarifying? Please fill in the form below. If you want a reply please enter a first name and an email address. Alternatively you can telephone the club during opening hours. Mon 1-6pm, Wed 7-11pm, Fri/Sat 8pm-2am, Sun 3-8pm on 01706 356701 and ask to speak to Mandy, Claire or Tracy (please ring on Mon/Wed if you want a longer chat).