Statistically ladies are less likely to visit a swingers club alone than gents. But it's not just swingers clubs, it's bars and pubs too. 

The hospitality trade has done research into this. One of the reasons is long standing social stigma, in the 70s and 80s it could be frowned upon if a lady went into a pub alone, some pubs wouldn't serve single ladies, others would only serve single measures or half pints. A percieved lack of safety is another reason or not wanting to be pestered by men.

Yet numerous blogs and magazine articles by ladies are embracing their experiences at swingers clubs, pointing to the safe environment and the fact that ladies have a sense of empowerment. In a regular bar, ladies who choose to be sexually adventurous or like a flirt are often labelled, yet in a swingers club, you can flirt and tease to your hearts content (or not, the choice is yours), you are in charge.

Spend your money on looking great and feeling confident and ensuring you get to and from the club safely. We understand that ladies are more likely to have additional costs like childcare. We don't want entry fees to be a barrier to you visiting us.

Do I have to do anything sexual?

Absolutely not, a swingers club is somewhere you can be as sexually adventurous as you like, not somewhere you must. 

Many customers visit only socially, most will only play if they are attracted to somebody. You are NEVER expected to do anything.

What if I don't want to do anything sexual?

You have the right to give or withdraw consent as you wish. A simple polite 'no' should surfice. If it doesn't and you are pestered in any way speak to staff.

Can I do anything sexual?

Yes, you can (within reason), Provided that it's consensual with those involved. Sex is never guaranteed and all customers (men too!) can give or withdraw consent. No always means no!

Do I have to get naked?

Absolutely not. You never have to get naked. Should you choose to go to play or watch in our playrooms, dungeon or use the sauna/jacuzzi we ask you to dress down. (It would be wierd to be fully clothed in these circumstances!).

Dress down doesn't mean you need to be naked, it can be lingerie, body suit, swimwear, towel, you may also want to wear a robe or a throw.

Will I see sex/nudity?

Possibly, if this offends then DECADANCE may not be for you. You are never under any expectation to partake.

Why should I come to DECADANCE over a bar in town if I just want a social experience?

Firstly we are selective on who we let in, you won't get stag dos those under the influence of drugs. A no phones policy means you get like minded adult conversation, customers who enjoy having a laugh. We have karaoke, a dancefloor and free pool.

Can ladies come as a group to DECADANCE?

Yes of course. Its a great safe, day or night out. Ladies are under no obligation to swing or play. We have a dancefloor, karaoke and free pool. You may be a group where some are looking to play, some are not, that's fine. You may want to use the sauna/jacuzzi. If there are any men in your group, couples/gents entry fees would apply.*jacuzzi on special events only.

If you drink a lot of the same drink eg. all drink prosecco, we'd appreciate it if you'd give us a few days to endure we've got plenty chilled. Do this via the contact us page rather than the form on this page.

Is DECADANCE safe?

See the section below for ways we look after your safety. We ask you to look after yourself too.

  • Never leave drinks unattended
  • Don't drink too much.
  • Don't do anything you don't want to do.

Why can meeting someone at a swingers club be safer than a regular pub/bar?

If you meet someone in a bar and want to take things further you have a few choices? Go back to there's? Take them to yours? Book a hotel? or maybe a quickee in the toilets.

Taking a stranger to yours, going to theirs, or a hotel can be extremely risky. Do you know this person? DECADANCE provides a safe no judgemental venue where staff are on hand to help.

What do I pay for?

Drinks! Ladies don't get charged for entry. Any drinks can be purchased from the bar. Bar prices are listed on our website and are similar to a normal bar/pub.

There is no charge for towels, lockers, condoms or playing pool.

I'm not confident about my body, will I fit in?

90% of the poulation feel the same, a swingers club is a great way to improve your confidence..

You will find all types of bodies in a club, in both ladies and gents. A lot of people are attracted to personality rsther than body types. 

Can we arrange a private party or hen-do at the club?

Yes, we can usually sort something. Use the 'contact us' page and we can discuss your requirements.

Can I celebrate my birthday at DECADANCE?

Of course, use the 'contact us' page a few weeks before and we will arrange something.

Can I bring my mum?

If you want, just don't complain if she has a better time than you!

Clubs have numerous safeguards to look after ladies and make sure they have a great experience. DECADANCE is female owned and run. Here are some of the ways we look after ladies.

  • We are selective about who we let in. Those who are drunk will not be admitted. We will not usually allow all male groups into the club.
  • When anyone new comes to the the club they will be shown around the club, part of this will include explaining the standards of behaviour expected including that no means no and ensuring this is understood.
  • We have a no mobile phones policy.
  • Being a small club, its's easy for our staff keep a close eye on what us happening. Staff will step in and stop trouble before it happens.
  • Unwanted advances, pestering or following other customers around are not acceptable, staff have no issues with warning or asking people to leave. If you have any concerns, our staff will happily address them. We encourage you to report anything no matter how small immediately. We can talk privately. We will deal with the issue. We have a number of regular customers who have no problems in reporting problems, if you don't feel confident in doing it yourself. (Problems are very rare but we want you to report everything).
  • Condoms are free and safe play encouraged.
  • We will happilly call you a taxi when you are ready to leave. We will also walk you out to the taxi to ensure you are safe.

At DECADANCE all ladies get VIP treatment. You rock up looking fabulous, you get in free, we look after you. We don't need any personal details, we dont interogate you, instead we give you a warm welcome, show you around, introduce you to others and answer any questions.

What you do is up to you, no judgements, no expectations, no pressure. Whether you're here for the banter, the bar, a little karaoke or something a little more adventurous, you are in control

For the avoidance of doubt, a swingers club is somewhere sexual activity can take place between consenting adults, it doesn't have to happen, and consent can be withdrawn at anytime. We always encourage safe play and free condoms are provided. there is never any expectation to play and you are welcome to visit purely to enjoy the atmosphere, make new friends and have a laugh.

We know that ladies often spend a lot more on outfits and looking great than the gents, thats why we don't want cost to stop you coming, you only pay for your drinks and our bar prices are very reasonable.

Ladies of all ages (18+), all races, all body types, all demographocs, all confidence levels, visit DECADANCE, no-one will be out of place. Sure going to a swingers club may sound daunting, but at DECADANCE we focus on ensuring everyone has a great time socially and if that leads to more so be it. Your safety is our priority and you can always talk discreetly to a member of staff, who will have your back. Want to bring a wingwoman, that's fine, you can bring a wingman instead (but would be charged couples entry fee). or why not come as a group? When you are ready to go home we will happily call you a taxi and walk you out to it.

So what are you waiting for?? As we said it can be daunting, but the hardest thing is getting through the front door, from there we'll look after you. The FAQ page may help.you. If you have any questions no matter how small we'd love the opportunity to talk so get in touch via the 'contact us' page..