Common misconceptions of a swingers club
So you are reading this because your curious about visiting a swingers club but you've not plucked up the courage to come yet?
What's stopping you?
This page addressed common misconceptions and misinformation, seperating fact from fiction.
The myth
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A swingers club is a brothel, by a different name
The truth
- A brothel and a swingers club couldn't be more different.
- There are no paid sex workers or lap dancers in a swingers club and sex is never guaranteed or offered.
- A swingers club is simply somewhere where consenting adults may have sex.
- At DECADANCE it goes without saying, paying for sexual services, or offering services for payment are strictly prohibited. Anyone doing either would be required to leave the club immediately and barred.
The myth
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Swingers clubs are illegal or unregulated
The truth
- DECADANCE is fully licenced by Rochdale council as both a premises licenced to serve alcohol, and as a sexual entertainment venue. We are regularly inspected. There is nothing illegal about what we do and we've got nothing to hide.
- The law around consent for sexual activity still fully applies within the club. Being in a swingers club or being dressed (or undressed) in any partucular way, doesn't imply that anyone consents to sex or being touched sexually. Any play must be between consenting adults and it is your responsibility to ensure consent just as it is anywhere else outside the club.
The myth
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Sex is guaranteed at a swingers club, after all i've paid to get in, so I should get something for my money.
The truth
- Again it seems like you are confusing a swingers club with a brothel. Sex is possible with mutual consent. Whether you find anyone that wants to offer that consent or not, depends on how you interact with people in the social areas, if you are pushy it probably won't happen. No always means no, and sex is never guaranteed.
The myth
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Everyone must be passing around STDs
The truth
- Condoms are available at swingers clubs, safe sex is strongly encouraged. DECADANCE currently provide FREE condoms as our customers' safety is paramount.
- People who visit swingers clubs are often regularly tested for STDs.
The myth
- Everybody is having sex, it's one big orgy.
The truth
- Swingers clubs are about connection and consent. It's meeting people, flirtation and chemistry. Some people come purely for the sexy atmosphere, others are looking for something specific.
- Some nights there might be a big orgy, but consent still applies, no-one is ever expected to take part in anything, it's all about personal choice. No always means no.
The myth
- I am expected to get naked or strip to my underwear on entry.
The truth
- This is the case at some clubs, that require you to dress down on entry. Other clubs allow you to remain fully clothed in social areas.
- At DECADANCE you can remain fully clothed throughout the ground floor of the club, and if going upstairs to the outdoor smoking area.
- At DECADANCE we only ask you to dress down if playing or watching in a room upstairs, using the sauna, or using the dungeon in the basement. Of course it's probably not a good idea to go in the jacuzzi fully closed either!
- Dressing down is not as scary as you think. Gents it's boxers or a towel, ladies lingerie, towel, you may want to wear a gown. No one ever has to get naked.
- Dressing down in playrooms is asked simply because its generally uncomfortable for those who are wearing little if someone else around is fully clothed.
The myth
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Swingers clubs are just for couples
The truth
- Absolutely not, at DECADANCE we find that there is a good mix of singles and couples. Some couples are looking for singles to join them, some are looking for other couples, some just go with the flow. Again some singles are looking for singles, some to join couples.
The myth
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Swingers Clubs are only for hard core swingers.
The truth
- DECADANCE is primarily a social club, where people interact in much the same way as any other bar or club.
- We have activities such as our sauna, pool table or karaoke as great ways to have fun and break the ice.
- Ultimately if you decide to take things further thats solely up to you.
- You may even just want to watch what goes on in the playrooms, and can do that with consent of those playing in a private room or through glass in our viewing room.
The myth
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I am likely to bump into someone I know
The truth
- OK we won't pretend this has never happened, but it's very rare. If you do bump into someone you know we find its never as bad as people fear. Firstly they are generally at the club for the same or similar reasons as you.
- We find some people go to clubs away from their local area, just because you are local doesn't mean you are likely to meet someone you know.
- After the initial possible awkwardness you've got others to chat to, have a laugh with, you may even decide to play upstairs!
- What happens in DECADANCE, stays in DECADANCE. Discretion is important, we never say who has been in the club and expect our customers to donthe same.
The myth
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I can't possibly go to a swingers club, I have a responsible job.
The truth
- Swinging is not illegal or shameful. We have had almost every proffession as customers in the club, including police officers, solicitors, magistrates, solicitors, councillors, doctors, nurses, teachers, social workers, footballers etc
- We are not a members club, so unlike some clubs we do not keep customers names and addresses so your data can never be breached.
- What happens in DECADANCE, stays in DECADANCE. We never say who has been in the club, if you choose to tell people you've been to DECSDANCE that's up to you but we never do.
- You are under no obligation to tell us what you do in conversation, we understand not everyone wants to, you can tell us you're an F1 racing driver if you like we dont judge.
The myth
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A regular bar, club, hotel, my house, their house are the best places for a first date/hookup.
The truth
- Swingers clubs provide a safe environment, with fully aware staff where you can take things further if you want to.
The myth
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You can have some of the best nights of your life at a swingers club.
The truth
- That one is actually true!
The myth
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Elves don't really exist
The truth
- You'll have to come to the club on a Wednesday, Friday or Saturday and look over the bar to find out....